It’s Not Love

DV Butterfly

Today, I want to speak a little about domestic violence. The UK’s UN Women committee are raising awareness of violence towards women and girls with a drawaline campaign. This campaign aims to draw a line under all violence to women and girls . Here is a link to the page, should you wish to see more details: Drawaline Campaign

Domestic violence is a subject that’s very close to my heart. Not only physical violence, but sexual and verbal also. Violence against women and children (and, increasingly, domestic violence toward men). I read this frightening statistic today: 1 in 4 women in the UK (and up to 70% of women in some places) have experienced sexual or physical violence. 2 women are murdered in the UK every week by their intimate partners. That’s shocking!

I’m not personally involved with the drawaline campaign, as I only read about it this morning. But I am involved in spreading this message whenever possible. Here is a poem I wrote a couple of years ago about my own experiences . . .

It’s Not Love

When you’re lying in bed,
to b r e a t h e,
praying the sheets will
your body,
you dread the inevitable
the one you don’t want to play—
and the
s t e n c h
of brandy
smothers your senses:
that’s not love

When his words
toward you with
venom and force,
you know you’re
because why would he lie?
Still you long for
his approval,
for his public
to  s




even though you know you deserve it,
and you’ll never be good enough:
that’s not love

When you’re
in a corner,
rough hands squeeze your neck,
you plead for his
m e r c y,
but he spits in your face,
your life’s lived on eggshells,
his fist a constant threat,
he hates you, he loves you,
it’s all your own fault:
that’s not love.
It’s not love.


Author: chocotales

I am a writer who is passionate about words. I find them magical and seductive. I write short stories, poetry, and non fiction. I'm currently working on my first novel.

5 thoughts on “It’s Not Love”

  1. So proud that someone’s talking about this. It’s inspiring to see you use this platform as a mode of communication to the heart’s of people. I respect that you made this post. You’re very inspiring, keep it up 💖

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